"Look, just because I went with his trolley doesn't mean I'm taking sides.

If you want your parents to stay together, you don't take sides.

Look, if you don't want me to say this, just say 'Go away please, I don't feel like listening'. You can even cut out the please, I don't mind. I just want to help, share what I know, (and only what I know, I'm no expert but still). And the least you could do to a person with good intent is not yell at them. Please.

If you want to talk, I suggest you do it with a clear head. Otherwise, disaster.

And if you find each other interrupting speech all the time, do it via e-mail. It makes no difference, as long as you get closure.

Don't show your anger, no matter how strong the urge. You can say, 'Look, I'm really pissed OK,' but don't yell. That'll just become a yelling match and yelling matches are like war - they never solve anything.

Didn't we come here for a reason? To escape the rubbishness of the old country yes, but also, don't we all want a new start? While it's great to leave the past in the past recurring problems may come up and while you want to solve them, isn't it better to have that intention rather than the intention to make your partner hurt as worse as you did?

Contrary to popular belief, doing what's best for you may not be what's best for your offspring. If the bad outweighs the good you can still ditch it, but once you have a kid it's my humble opinion that you must stick with it, you have no other choice. Oh wait; you do have a choice - but one that will probably end up with one or more unhappy party. In this case, that party would be me.

You recall all the crap he did to you, and he does the same. What's the first step? Apologize. Atrocious it may seem but everything comes out better after the two simple words: 'I'm sorry.'

Of course it isn't simple. But since when was love simple? Love is sacrifice, this time you sacrifice your pride (which is, by the way, a very small thing). 'I'm sorry if I ever offended or hurt you.' Even if you didn't know what you did to hurt him/her. Even if you knew but she/he deserved it. Even if you thought what you did wasn't offensive. (Even if, the list goes on, same rule applies, no exceptions, not unless you're a different species)

Step three, 'I'm sorry if I ever offended or hurt you, but.' You can always state your case.



And lastly.

Saying sorry, as some people think, is a sign of weakness. I'm sure you're better than that, but you might still harbour some doubts so I will say this:


isn't it ironic that I just discovered this song yesterday? Hey, thanks.

Preferably wanted a meaningful video but just the picture for you guys, easy loading.